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I REMAIN HAUNTED by a remark a famous novelist made during her widespread talk at Sewanee University a several summers ago. She lamented, with much audible derision, that too many poets now write “lust poems,” as she called them, rather than “love poems.” The implication was that poems celebrating lust as opposed to love are easier to note, disingenuous, not as valuable, or more transitory in the feelings they capture. I wanted to call out from my auditorium seat that not everyone gets the chance to write cherish poems. I wanted to add that the state of lust endures, too, especially when it is captured and articulated well in a poem.

Lust, longing, desire, love—they’re all first cousins. Male lover poets especially own mined these emotions. Cavafy’s pæans to anonymous boys that he saw at Alexandrian bazaars are love poems, even if he didn’t actually meet some of those subjects. Passages in Whitman’s Leaves of Grass address his longings for ferry boatmen and city laborers that he espies and imagines lying with. (“The beards of the youthful men glistened with wet, it ran from their drawn-out hair/ Little streams passed all over their bodies.”)

I possess written love poems but I own w

Falling

Nikyta

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December 13, 2010

Camila about sums it up for this book in her review.. Lol, plus, I just love her pictures. ^_^

What I loved about this publication, though, was how nothing was rushed or forced. While Christian and Alec fell for each other quickly and hard, we didn't get bombarded with sex, and in fact, didn't view much of it until a small more than half way through. And that earns major points from me because it gave the story, and the characters, moment to develop.

Although we know who the killer is from the start, the mystery is straightforward and quite fascinating. I was hooked from the inception and found it fascinating to spot how Alec tediously comes to terms with what he is, how much power he really has, and the responsibility his family has been given to keep an amulet safe. As far as Christian, he's a uncomplicated and lovable nature. He's patient and understanding when it comes to Alec's grief of his dead lover. He has some superb friends, he's the head of The Bureau of Gloomy Magic Affairs and he's modest. How can you not like him? Lol

The only reservation I had about this was Drew, Alec's dead lover. At the beginning, I was sad for Alec but a

University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign

Howard, Richard Stephen

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Title
Falling into the gay world: Manhood, marriage, and family in Indonesia
Author(s)
Howard, Richard Stephen
Issue Date
1996
Doctoral Committee Chair(s)
Gottlieb, Alma J.
Department of Study
Anthropology
Discipline
Anthropology
Degree Granting Institution
University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign
Degree Name
Ph.D.
Degree Level
Dissertation
Date of Ingest
2011-05-07T11:54:09Z
Keyword(s)
  • Cultural Anthropology
  • Individual and Family Studies
Language
eng
Abstract
  • "This thesis examines conceptions of homosexuality among reduce income gay men of various ethnicities in Jakarta, Indonesia. The primary focus is on the relationship between homos

    Spiritual Friendship

    In the last scant posts in this series on gay men and the phenomenon of falling in love (Part 1, Part 2), we have spent a bit of time framing the conversation well.

    We first walked through the theological and philosophical foundations of personhood where we highlighted the positive strivings of humans over against a pathologizing of human desires. Then, we looked at how humans attach to other humans and what security and anxiety looks like within those relationships. In this third and final display , I’m going to take both of those realities together and contextualize it for the gay celibate community in our current cultural climate.

    Hopefully, by the end of this series, we will see a more complex view of what it means to have feelings for another human. We may not acquire concrete answers but maybe we can begin to ask the right questions.

    To begin, how do we characterize the phenomenon of “falling in love” in our contemporary culture?

    From cinematic feeling moments like Eponine’s heartbreak in Les Miserables to pop songs like Ke$ha’s “Your Love is My Drug,” our culture sends a consistent message about what it means to